From the get go, we are taught to be planners, to think ahead, and to foresee how our futures will look. Many of us look at life like an equation. If I do this, this, and this, it will equal a desired outcome. In theory, this all is completely rational, but in reality, we know that this is not how life works, and I promise you, that’s for the best.
I used to be a person who always wanted (or better yet needed) to know how things were going to unfold. Ranging from the most minute to the life changing situations, I’ve always wanted to know all the answers. Even though it’s wonderful to be informed and in the know, some of the most stressful situations of my life have stemmed from desiring to know it all, and not surrendering to what is.
There may be many uncertainties in life but there are also infinite possibilities. It is impossible for us to know how our days will come and go, and I think it’s better this way. The truth is, if we “knew it all” life would be so much less interesting. When we have a tight grip on how we think our lives should look, we block out the guidance of the really magical lives that are waiting for us.
My main point of this week’s blog is to just let go a little bit, to not think so much about how things will unfold, and to just be. I know this may sound like a lot to ask, but life just flows so effortlessly when you release the grip every once and a while.
If this all seems like a major struggle, I’ll give you a few easy starter tips below:
1. Live in the present moment. Instead of worrying about what is going to happen in the next 5 minutes, days, months or years, become totally consumed in what is happening in the now. One of my favorite quotes comes to mind that perfectly encapsulates this: “Be so busy loving your life that you have no time for hate, regret, or fear.”
2. Do your best at any given moment. When you are present and doing the best you can with what you are given you can have faith that everything will work out as it should. Even setbacks or challenging situations have their purposes, in bringing forth the lessons we need to propel us forward, teaching us tools to carry through life.
3. Follow the signs and follow what brings you joy. I’ve set an intention this year to follow what’s joyful, and so far it hasn’t led me astray. There’s something to listening to your inner guidance system, and following the true joys in life. When it comes to big decisions where I feel like I need to know it all, I used to toil, make lists, and make myself crazy. Now I go by how I feel, what makes me feel most joyful, and what makes me feel most alive. It has made all the difference. As my teacher, Gabby Bernstein always says, “Lean towards joy, and you will be led.”
4. Surrender. Have faith that life is unfolding exactly as it should. Sometimes we think we have to control everything for our lives to be perfect. We are always thinking that we know what’s best for ourselves in any given moment, but like I said earlier in this blog, there are infinite possibilities in this world that our brains cannot even possibly imagine. Let go of what you think life should look like, and allow yourself to be guided by the Universe.
I hope these tips help you get out of your head and into the flow of life! Let me know how you will start surrendering in the comments below!
Michelle is Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life's Creative Director and resident writer. She has a degree in Journalism from Indiana University and is also a certified holistic health coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and registered yoga teacher with trainings with Anuttara Yoga Shala and Strala Yoga. Michelle has a deep desire to help people find happiness in all areas of their lives, and truly believes the Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life movement will bring lasting change to the world. Michelle splits her time between Florida and New York City and loves connecting with people from all over the world. If you'd like to contact her, she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org