My #1 Block to Success and How I Overcame ItHappiness
I would have to say that one of my biggest hindrances and blocks in my life so far has been self-doubt. It has been a pattern of mine, for most of my life, to live small, feel insecure, unworthy, and not good enough. I distinctly remember when completing my first yoga teacher training, at graduation, my teacher had us write down one thing that was holding us back in our lives, to be burned in a fire, as a ceremoniously way of releasing it. I wrote down self-doubt. That is how much of a hold it had on me.
Today I can say that I mostly live out of the shadows of self-doubt, and feel confident in my work and myself. I know that I have to feel this way in order to make the impact on the world that I desire. With that being said, I can also confidently say that I get caught up in the ego’s games of unworthiness from time to time. That’s just a part of life. The lesson when this happens for me now is to notice it, recognize that those thoughts are not real and are not based in love, and to remind myself to choose again.
I truly believe that every single one of you reading this blog today is meant to do great work in this world, we all have a unique purpose to be a light, in whatever vein we choose. If any of you are struggling with self-doubt, this week I offer you four quick reminders on how you step out of it so you can step into your full power as a light worker in this world.
- Learn to love yourself. I believe self-doubt stems from not fully and completely loving and accepting yourself. Self-love is a journey, no doubt. We are all taught to remember why we aren’t enough instead of honoring the reasons why we are. Make it your number one priority to be completely in love with yourself, regardless of what is happening in your life.
- Drop the comparison. For most of my life, I have compared myself to other people, and that in turn has blocked me from being the person I’m meant to be. Until now. Comparison really is just a waste of time, and robs you of your unique voice in this world. When I try to be like someone else, in hopes of “fitting in”, I in turn lose my own amazing sense of self. Honor others for the impact they have, but still maintain your authentic voice.
- Lose the self-judgment and criticism. As you’ve heard from me a lot lately, judgment has also been a huge block for me. Many times I have judged myself for not being enough (good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, productive enough, etc.). I have also been super critical of my achievements. Just like comparison, this is a total waste of time and energy that could be spent creating the life that you actually desire. Remember that when you are judging and criticizing yourself, you aren’t loving yourself, and as we remember from tip #1, self-love is the only way.
- Find mentors that inspire you. Surround yourself with people who will help lift you up, when you can’t seem to find the strength to do so yourself. I’ve found so many beautiful teachers in my life, who I can say for certain, have helped make me the person I am today. We are always learning in this life, so it’s so important to find those teachers who help guide you on your path.
I hope these tools help you find your way! As always, send me a comment below and let me know your thoughts on this topic. If you’re looking for more guidance on breaking down the blocks of self-doubt and uncertainty, my amazing teacher Gabrielle Bernstein is offering a FREE training series. If you’d like to check it out, click here.
Michelle is Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life's Creative Director and resident writer. She has a degree in Journalism from Indiana University and is also a certified holistic health coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and registered yoga teacher with trainings with Anuttara Yoga Shala and Strala Yoga. Michelle has a deep desire to help people find happiness in all areas of their lives, and truly believes the Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life movement will bring lasting change to the world. Michelle splits her time between Florida and New York City and loves connecting with people from all over the world. If you'd like to contact her, she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org