Very recently I was presented with a situation where a close friend of mine gave me advice. It was harmless advice, in good faith, but it really didn’t sit well with me! I didn’t resonate with it, and I felt very conflicted by the information that was given to me, and thus sent myself into a mental whirlwind trying to sort out how to take it all in.
In this noted circumstance, I reached out for this advice, but in reality my heart new the truth and the answer I needed. When the external advice went against what I knew inside of me to be true, I really struggled with how to make the two sides of the coin match. Basically, the advice given, left me with even more questions.
I asked myself, “Do I take this advice? Is it right for me? Does it fit my life circumstances? Does this person really know me?”
So many questions went through my mind. And then it came to me, that I was asking someone else for my own clarity! It was silly really. I am the one walking my path, and asking someone else their opinion who has never walked in my shoes, or been there.
I know we all can feel unclear in life and we reach out to those we love for input and advice only to feel more lost and confused. The truth of the matter is no one can really know what’s best for us, because we hold our own unique energy and desires.
What this means is, yes we can take in advice and wisdom from others, but only those people in our lives who love us unconditionally, have our best interest at heart, and then we must digest what they have said and see how the energy, the truth of it sits within our own truth and energy. Just because something works for someone else doesn’t necessarily mean it will work for us.
So, when someone imparts their wisdom upon you, take it in, sit with it, see how it feels. And if something feels off, don’t ignore your feelings. Allow yourself to use what feels good to your soul, and gracefully reject what doesn’t.
You are the only one who knows what’s best for you. And please repeat this to yourself everyday. You are the only one who intensely knows your energy, your desires, your values. We must remember this when beginning to discount our own inner wisdom by seeking external validation.
Looking to others for guidance or advice isn’t wrong or bad, so long as we have a solid sense of who we are and what we want, internally, first. When presented with a fork in the road, rather than passing along the baton to someone else to make the decision, look inward and ask yourself what you truly want. The answers that lie within you are excited to come out, if you let them.
Michelle is Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life's Creative Director and resident writer. She has a degree in Journalism from Indiana University and is also a certified holistic health coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and registered yoga teacher with trainings with Anuttara Yoga Shala and Strala Yoga. Michelle has a deep desire to help people find happiness in all areas of their lives, and truly believes the Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life movement will bring lasting change to the world. Michelle splits her time between Florida and New York City and loves connecting with people from all over the world. If you'd like to contact her, she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org