“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” – The Serenity Prayer
I want to start this week’s blog with the Serenity Prayer, as it immediately popped into my mind when I began to write. The Serenity Prayer is one of the most well-known prayers, particularly in the the addiction community. Essentially, I believe this prayer to be a guide to managing life, and everything that gets put on our path, with grace. I begin with this prayer because of the first sentence, “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.” In this very powerful, life changing prayer, the very first words deal with acceptance. Ergo, practicing acceptance is an important part of living a happy, fulfilling life.
Whether you are dealing with something happening in your personal life or frustrated with the state of the world, acceptance can feel challenging, or nearly impossible. It’s hard to practice acceptance when things are not going our way, when tragedy strikes, or when things feel completely out of our control. But, as the prayer teaches, it’s important to strive to accept the things we cannot change; especially situations or outcomes that we do not prefer!
The key is noticing what circumstances are out of our control, what is worth fighting for or changing, and what are alternate paths we can take to be where we want to be. This week, I would love for us to practice acceptance, but in a new way, that feels healthy and empowering. Acceptance is never about allowing yourself to live in abusive or destructive situations. Let’s learn together, how to accept with grace, so that we can focus on the things we can change, and create the lives we truly desire.
- Know yourself. Get to know yourself, your preferences, and how you would like to see your life and the world. Know what you want, so that you can set your aim in the right direction.
- Know how to pick your battles. Sometimes we get into a mindset that we have to fight everything we don’t like to be effective in creating what we want. Let’s reframe this. Learn to “stand-up” smart. If there is something happening in the world or in your life that you don’t like, think outside the box on how you can change it. Remember, what you resist, persists. Prioritize your battles, and use your creativity to come up with solutions.
- Know when to take action. Have courage when the time is right to make a stand, a statement, or a change. We are powerful beings, and when we have desires that are backed up truth, confidence and perseverance, anything is possible.
- Know what’s done is done. Sometimes we like to relive the past and bring up old hurts as a way to excuse bad behavior. Let what has happened stay in the past. Learn from it, forgive it, release it, and work to live each day from a clean slate. The past has taught us and given us perspective, use it for the powers of good in this present moment, but don’t allow it to hold you back.
- Know that it is all going to be ok. Have trust that the situations that pop up in your life, even the challenging ones, are here to teach you something and to make you stronger, wiser, kinder, and more compassionate. They are showing you who you really are. When we can let go of the outcomes with faith that all will be ok, we have more energy to put towards the things we want to create.
I hope this blog helps you reframe acceptance and understand its importance. I’d love to keep the conversation going today on how you practice acceptance and what it means for you. Send me some love in the comments below!
Michelle is Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life's Creative Director and resident writer. She has a degree in Journalism from Indiana University and is also a certified holistic health coach through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and registered yoga teacher with trainings with Anuttara Yoga Shala and Strala Yoga. Michelle has a deep desire to help people find happiness in all areas of their lives, and truly believes the Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life movement will bring lasting change to the world. Michelle splits her time between Florida and New York City and loves connecting with people from all over the world. If you'd like to contact her, she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org